Monday, January 31, 2011

A New Season of Growth


I can feel it.

Since I have the pleasure of living in Florida, I see that our spring has begun. Thousands of azalea buds line my entry way at home while at the office, the Golden Trumpet tree is already bursting and blooming.


My own heart is a big bud right now. Waiting to blossom. Needing a little more water, a little more sunshine, a bit more of encouragement.

I can feel it.

Sometimes I sense these growth spurts and can predict them, but I've predicted wrong in the past. Or maybe the soil of my heart did not sufficiently grab the required elements. My bad.

It's been such a long time since I had a big growth spurt. Baby spurts, yes. Little healings, of course. I know I need to cut back the dead branches, dig out some more weeds, and make place for the new growth that is reaching out for me.

I can feel it.

Sunday, February 21, 2010

An Imposed Growth Spurt


Yesterday we hit 75 in central Florida so I decided that it was the first day of spring. That meant I needed to tangle with the entangled and neglected bougainvillea bushes in my backyard. As you can see the bush on the left has lots of dead leaves (they froze when temperatures dropped and I was too busy to protect the bush by covering it up). The bush had death all over it - tangled with weeds and vines and with itself.

After dozens of snips and cuts and prunings, the bush as it appears on the right looked very different. Cut back and nicely trimmed, this bush is ready to grow. Here is what I learned in the process:

1. if you don't wear gloves your hands get pricked by the thorns, and it hurts
2. major branches were dead with no life at all and had to be cut off
3. some branches merely needed a simple trim
4. some branches seemed to be alive and dead at the same time
5. deciding which branch to trim vs. which to cut off was not always easy

The parallels with real life were astounding. The bush has a glorious past with lots of purple blossoms each year and yet the state I found it in was dismal. Regardless of how many successes or victories or happy days we have in life, a day will come when we are down, struggling, and in need of help.

It was hard to cut a major branch off. These were big and needed the loppers, but I was also concerned that if I cut too much off, then I would disable or hurt the entire bush. Sometimes I know I have issues in my life to address, but I don't know if I should really tackle them. An issue might be too big. Too much pain may ensue. And maybe my life will change entirely?

Some branches were so bad, it was as if they had been neglected. What areas do I neglect in myself?

Trimming a branch felt good and it was so much easier. Making incremental changes in my life is a lot easier, much more pleasant. Growth is not only necessary for health, but taking care of myself enables me to grow more and more.

However, at times a big branch needs to be removed, for whatever reason. Likewise, major changes have to occur at times. Maybe the best way to get at an issue is to totally remove it, totally address it, attack it and defeat it.

What was interesting was finding a branch that looked dead but had signs of life. It gave me hope to keep it. It made me creative in determining where to cut or where to trim it.

We humans carry around both life and death within us. If we give in to death, we die each day. If we choose life, we live another day. Choosing to trim out the sin, laziness, disease, lack of self-control, and worldliness in our lives gives life and godliness and beauty an opportunity to have a larger place in our hearts and minds.

I can't wait to see my two bougainvilleas in two months. They will look different than they did before I trimmed them - full of lovely blossoms due to an imposed growth spurt. It will be a reminder to me to keep growing and changing and becoming the man I am supposed to be. Hope does spring eternal.

Our culture tells us not to change, to stay true to ourselves. The truer message is to learn, and grow, and change, to become all that we can be.

{Thought to ponder:

Being a gardener of our own garden enables us to maintain ourselves in a healthy way. But there are other gardeners in our lives: spouses, children, friends, God, bosses, who else?}

Wednesday, June 10, 2009

Tired of Growing, But Not Weary of Growth

I'm finding that being in the middle of a prolonged growth spurt, a season of growth, is tiring. I long for stability, settledness, and surety. Often these characteristics don't come apart from the growth, so life can be a bit of a catch 22. The joy, the peace, the fruit is the result of the growth.

The growing process is tiring when it keeps coming, but intermittently the joy arrives among the leaves of the growth. Once growth stops, it feels good, but the danger lurking around the corner is complacency, selfishness, and laziness. So perhaps it is better to always be growing a little than to have growth spurts all at once.

In either case, all growth is useful and beneficial in the end. That's why growing weary of growth is not a problem, because the end result is a better life than where I was before. Perseverance enables us to keep going, because we know we are headed in the right direction.

Friday, January 23, 2009

Room to Grow

Last week I was compelled to go for a walk. I had just watched the movie August Rush and came away inspired by Evan's child-like faith and simple determination.

I had a desire for more faith in my life. Like Evan, I wanted the pieces of my life to fit together.
More faith gives me more perspective which enables me to look beyond difficulties towards the beneficial outcomes of a persevering life.

So I went to the nearby lakefront right away...at 10:30 at night :-) I walked for two hours until well after midnight. I found myself at a round of landscaped bushes. The closed-in section was large and it contained maybe two dozen bushes. It looked odd because there was so much space between the bushes. The area was so large and the bushes so small, it was striking.

As I thought and prayed about it, I took a strong lesson away. I wondered why the gardener had not placed more bushes in the round, filling it up with more beauty. Then I realized that the bushes that were planted had plenty of room to grow.

I walked away realizing that I too have plenty of room to grow.

Friday, December 26, 2008

Daddy Died

My Dad died earlier this month. It is a new chapter in my story, no doubt. It feels odd not to have a father anymore. I can't call him. I can't write to him or visit him. He is no more.

It also is a powerful demonstration that I too am aging. I'm now part of the oldest generation of my family. I too will die.

It is not depressing. It is sad. Death cuts life short. But in the end, life triumphs over death because of Jesus Christ and his resurrection power over death. Only God transforms something bad (death) to something good (life). Praise him.

Only time will tell how my story will develop without Dad around anymore.

Friday, November 21, 2008

Is Your Story Growing?

My story is growing by the day, these days. How about your story?

Are you looking within? Are you sharing life with friends? Are you finding meaning to seemingly senseless pieces of the puzzle?

What emotions are you experiencing? Joy, thankfulness, confusion, anger?

What do you think about? The economy, your job, a new President, your latest blog posting, your facebook wall?

Life has a way of whisking us away from our hearts. I am learning how to connect better to my heart.

As a result, I am not only reading my own story from a new perspective, I am writing new chapters. I hope you can do the same.

Friday, October 17, 2008

A Story As Unique As You and I

You are a unique individual. So am I. There is no one else like you. There is only one Brian Daniel Stankich in the entire world.

Think of it! It doesn't matter what your name is, what country you live in, how old you are, or what your background may be. There are no duplicate you's. In fact, names, ages, backgrounds, etc., are a big part of what makes you...you! I hope you are excited about this, because I am.

I am excited about myself. I am growing my story as I type. Back in the day, I viewed life as "happening to me." Now I try to make life happen, recognizing that there is a whole lot of life that I cannot control.

I'm also excited about you and your story. My desire is to have a blog where people can swap stories, learn how to grow in healthy ways, and encourage one another. Whether this blog is my "dream story" blog or not, I hope it is a place where you can get to know me better and where I can find out more about you as well.

As I go, I grow. As I grow, I story. Go, story, grow!